A ‘Tradwife’ believes that wives should succumb to their husband’s every want and need, making it their upmost duty to please.
A young woman has made headlines for her rather old-fashioned views on what it means to be a wife and a woman.
Mrs Alena Kate Pettitt once worked in the high-fly industry of marketing. Based in London, she spent the majority of her time partying with friends and climbing the career ladder.
But she now lives a completely different way of life after becoming a Tradwife – otherwise known as a traditional wife – which has become somewhat of a movement.
She claims to be the CEO of her own “company” which is essentially her household, after swapping the high life for the role as a stay-at-home mum.
A typical day for Alena involves cooking, cleaning, and looking after her home until her husband steps through the door.
Alena, who lives in the UK but who is also a Danish citizen, says she adores collecting vintage items such as dinner sets and mothercraft items – which she buys with the allowance her husband gives her once a month.
As she is so passionate about her lifestyle, Alena has opened up her own company called The Darling Academy which offers various courses entailing the skills you need to become the perfect British homemaker.
She has spoken to BBC about her views: “It’s harnessing the best about what made Britain great during that time where you could leave your front door open and know that you were safe, and you knew your neighbours in the street.”
She added: “We can have that again, things are changing so fast. We don’t even know the identity of our own country anymore.”
As a part of the Tradswife moment – which involves a group of women choosing to live a more traditional lifestyle that features men and women being in their old-fashioned roles – Alena writes articles.
Alena has written pieces on ‘Your Husband Should Always Come First’, ‘Ladylike Ways To Deal With Sneezes And Sniffles’, and ‘How To Be Elegant In The Morning’.
Despite most of Alena’s life being set in the 1950s, she does have her own YouTube channel which reveals what her life is truly like.
In one clip, she is shown saying: “I’m completely empowered. people think that being a submissive, if you want to use that work, a traditional housewife at home, we’re you know, not very smart, or weak, or have no value.
“But we’re incredibly switched on.”
She added: “It’s empowering to say I don’t want part of the modern narrative that says you are less than if you stay at home.
“We’ve incredibly undervalued. Think about it, did you not want your mum there?
“Did you not want your traditional wholesome supportive loving environment to be brought up in. I’m not saying that anything other than that isn’t but it’s the model way and it’s beautiful to be able to live it.”
Alena felt that growing up in the nineties was too difficult, as she felt that women were being pushed to “fight the boys” and “go out and be independent and break glass ceilings”.
She was raised by a single mum and watched her mum work hard to provide everything for her, which Alena saw as a burden.
She said: “I just felt like I was born to be a mother and a wife.
“What I really related to were the old shows of the 1950s and 60s.”
So when Alena met her husband, who had the same values as herself, she decided to “rebel” and live the lifestyle she had always secretly wanted.
Alena said: “He said, ‘I know that you want a man to look after you and to make you feel secure’ and he offered himself as that person.
“As soon as that happened, I was just like, finally someone sees it. Finally, I can be myself and I don’t have to hide who I am anymore.”
During her 20s, Alena says she felt like media outlets were brainwashing women into believing that those who worked were “liberating” and that they should “follow their sexual desires”.
When she discovered the Tradswife underground movement, she felt that she finally belonged.
Alena said: “With the Tradwife movement a lot of people want to label you like something, you know. Something that you might not have even thought of.
“Someone even said about ‘this type of housewife was promoted by the Third Reich’, and it’s like, was it really?”
Alena has been featured in The Telegraph and has taken to her Instagram page – which has nearly 8,000 followers – to claim that she has now become a public figure due to her patriarchal lifestyle.
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