A woman has fallen in love with her first cousin who is 20 years older, and she’s planning on marrying him.
Monica VanHoek, 35, is in a relationship with her first cousin and doesn’t care about their 20 year age gap.
Monica has admitted she has fallen in love with her first cousin, 55-year-old Paul Derschan after he became a source of comfort to her during difficult times, including the failure of her marriage.
Now, she plans to marry the construction company manager and have his kids – yet their future isn’t as optimistic as it seems.
Initially, the couple found it difficult to be intimate with one another and Monica, from Colorado, the US, has admitted that the first few times they had sex, she would cry.
She explained: “In the beginning, it was extremely difficult to be sexual with him – I felt very guilty and would even cry afterwards of how bad I felt, and Paul would also.”
Monica continued: “Our relationship was so natural because we already had a close bond being family – in fact, sexual intimacy was the only part that felt forced.
“After roughly six months we were able to have a healthy sexual relationship without feeling incestual or wrong.”
Despite overcoming this problem, there were other issues apart from those under the sheets.
Monica claims that several family members “disowned” her for being with her cousin, despite it being legal in the state.
Since May 2019, the couple has been engaged and have set a date for August this year to marry. They’re already planning their future family too.
She explained: “Due to Paul being older than me and my own fertility issues, we are going to start IVF treatment in the spring.
“But despite these issues, we will make sure that the child is 100 per cent mine and Paul’s, not using donated eggs or sperm, as we would love a child of our own.
“Monica believes that their relationship is “stronger than average couples” and she can’t deny the strong feelings she has when around Paul.
She concluded: “Our bond is even stronger than average couples because we love each other as family and as spouses – it’s like two different forms of love rolled into one, and that’s a very binding feeling.”
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