Dating Expert Shares Five Signs You Are Autosexual After Kourtney Kardashian Comes Out

Dating expert Alex Bert has revealed the five major signs that you may be autosexual.
Credit: @kourtneykardash/Instagram & Alamy

A dating expert has revealed the five major signs that you may be autosexual.

Kourtney Kardashian recently came out as autosexual in a viral blog post but fans have since been left baffled by the reality TV star’s explanation about her sexuality.

For others it has raised questions, could you also be autosexual and not even know it?

Well, IGV has exclusively spoken to dating expert Alex Bert, a relationship coach with over 14 years of experience, about the phenomena.

He tells us: “As a relationship coach, I’ve noticed an emerging sexual identity that is becoming more commonly recognised – autosexuality.

“Autosexuality involves a primary sexual attraction to oneself rather than to others.”

Kourtney Kardashian
Kourtney Kardashian has recently come out as autosexual – and it may be more common than you think. Credit: @kourtneykardash/Instagram

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So, here are the five key signs that you may identify as autosexual:

1. Mirror play

Bert claims a major signifier you’re autosexual is if ‘you enjoy pleasuring yourself in front of a mirror’.

He explains that: “Autosexual individuals often find deep erotic and emotional satisfaction in engaging in self-stimulation or masturbation while watching their own reflection.

“Seeing yourself in a state of pleasure heightens the experience.”

2. Fantasies

Fantasising about having s** with yourself is another key sign of autosexuality, Bert says.

The expert explains that while it’s common to fantasise, those who are autosexual will imagine scenarios ‘involving only themselves, rather than other partners’.

Couple kissing.
If you fantasise about having s** with yourself, you may be autosexual. Credit: Alamy

3. Self-focus

Bert claims that autosexuals may find themselves ‘drifting’ during s** with a partner, and then begin to admire their own body and become excited ‘by how attractive you find yourself’.

“You may even angle yourself toward mirrors to get a better view,” he adds.

4. Solo climax

Another sign to look out for, per Bert, is whether you have better climaxes during solo play.

He points out: “If your most consistently mind-blowing o**asms happen when you’re all by yourself, it may mean that you’re wired to get the most satisfaction from self-love and self-pleasure. You know exactly how to satisfy yourself!”

5. Plenty of confidence

The final sign Bert offers isn’t so much about s** but about self-perception.

Autosexuals are typically extremely self-assured and confident and don’t need much outside validation.

He says: “Compliments from others pale in comparison to how sexy you find yourself. While you may appreciate compliments on your appearance, they don’t hold a candle to how attractive and sexy you find yourself to be. Your own self-desire and self-admiration are much more powerful.”

Woman being admired by man.
People who are autosexual are typically very confident people, who don’t need much assurance from others. Credit: Alamy

Bert stresses that you don’t have to identify with all the signs to be considered autosexual, concluding: “Of course, sexuality exists on a spectrum, and autosexuality isn’t an all-or-nothing proposition. You can identify as autosexual while still enjoying partnered s**.

“But if these signs resonate strongly with you, you may find freedom and empowerment in embracing autosexuality.”

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Written by Annie Walton Doyle

Annie Walton Doyle is a content editor at IGV who specialises in trending, lifestyle and entertainment news. She graduated from Goldsmiths, University of London, with a degree in English Literature. Annie has previously worked with organisations such as The Huffington Post, The Guardian, The Telegraph, Harvard University, the Pulitzer Prize and 22 Words.