A mum has been shamed for admitting to having slept with over 50 men throughout her life and says that her ex even called her a “sl*t” for being “sexually liberated”.
Blogger Constance Hall decided to take to social media to share a powerful message with her followers.
The mum of five has often shared intimidate details about her life and in particular her sex life, yet recently, she claims she received a message from another woman who said she was afraid of being labelled a “sl*t”.
The 36-year-old said that this had prompted her to share an important message with her followers, as she too has been put in this situation before.
In an Instagram post, she explained how an ex had once “threatened” her, by saying he would share how many sexual partners she’d had with others.
However, she said she wasn’t bothered by this threat and wrote: “Nothing freaks out the patriarchy quite like a sexually liberated woman.
“I once had a partner threaten to tell all of our friends that I had slept with over 40 men. I couldn’t believe he would defame me like that…
“Pretty sure my last count was over 50 men.”
The mum then reassured others and the woman who had messaged her directly, that it shouldn’t matter how many people you’ve had sex with.
She said: “I don’t think you’re a sl*t because sl*ts don’t exist.
“They were invented to control women like the boogie man was invented to control kids.
“A player? Maybe. But hey.. don’t hate the player hate the game.”
She then added: “You don’t have to tell anyone your numbers.”
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Queen in a message, “Anyway I don’t even know why I’m messaging, I don’t expect a reply. Probably because I wanted to tell someone and get it off my chest. Someone that won’t just think I’m a slut” Me, “I don’t think your a slut because Sluts don’t exist. They were invented to control women like the boogie man was invented to control kids. A player? Maybe. But hey.. don’t hate the player hate the game. 💅🏾” Nothing freaks out the patriarchy quite like a sexually liberated woman. I once had a partner threaten to tell all of our friends that I had slept with over 40 men. I couldn’t believe he would defame me like that…. Pretty sure my last count was over 50 men. 💅🏾 You don’t have to tell anyone your numbers if you do
After sharing her post, the mum received plenty of praises for being so open and understanding.
One person responded: “I always tell the ones who try to ‘shame’ me that I’ve slept with more women than them too.”
Another commented: “This is why I follow you because you take queens and build them up every time!!! Why should we be so ashamed of our lives?!”
A third said: “I love this so much! I remember my now husband asking me my number and his shock when he found out. He almost broke up with me over it!
“People asked me why I didn’t lie about it back then and my response was why should I? Felt so upset that he thought I was a sl*t!! Not that he used that word, but his shock was quite obvious, and years later he told me his real thoughts. His number was only 4 and mine was 23.
“Anyway he stayed with me because of the amazing sex that came from all that practice lol I think people think if you’ve slept with lots of people you won’t be faithful, and I can tell you how untrue that is! I have never cheated my whole life. Nearly 18 yrs married!”