What Do Those Who Cheat In Relationships Have In Common?

Relationship experts have revealed the seven signs your significant other may be cheating on you.
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Relationship experts have revealed the seven signs of cheating to look out for in a partner. 

Being cheated on in a relationship is one of the biggest betrayals possible.

So it’s understandable that many people go to great lengths to avoid this potential trauma.

And luckily, it’s just gotten easier.

Relationship experts have shared the seven things that those who cheat in relationships all have in common, and it has left the internet shocked.

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One person comments: “If you love your partner why would you look at anyone else? You would immediately stop and think not interested I have the best before anything started.”

Another adds: “Sadly yes once a cheater, they will always cheat… at the end, the trust is gone. Sad but true!”

“Cheaters cannot be happy completely deep within themselves especially when their partner is a good person. The feeling of guilt will always be there which bothers them during their silent moment,” pens a third.

Relationship counsellor and clinical s**ologist Dr Martha Tara Lee of Eros Coaching tells Insider: “Cheating can be emotional, and/or physical. It all depends on how the person concerned is feeling.

“Most people are more disturbed by the breaking of trust and the intimacy in the ‘rival’ relationship than whether there is s** involved.”

And now Lee, alongside other experts, has revealed the signs to look out for that suggest your partner may be liable to cheat:

Couple arguing
Relationship experts have revealed what makes someone more likely to cheat. Credit: Alamy

Excessive privacy

If your partner appears to value their privacy to an obsessive level, it could be that there’s a good reason they don’t want you to pry.

Relationship expert Susan Winter tells Insider: “Your partner doesn’t want you to see their private activity, and therefore is purposefully excluding you from a vital portion of their lives.”

Not using names

Pet names can be sweet –  but they can also signify a partner has a few too many names to remember.

“Calling out the wrong name in the heat of passion is a faux pas that’s hard to backpedal,” Winter explains.

If they call you by a pet name, it may be because they have too many names to remember! Credit: Alamy

Good liars

Good cheaters have to be master manipulators, and able to mask the truth convincingly.

LeslieBeth Wish, a noted psychotherapist, author, and founder of Love Victory tells Insider: “They are masters at seeming believable.

“They can look you in the eye and say things such as: ‘What a long day at work’, when they were actually with another person.”

Lack of availability

Infidelity requires some level of distance, otherwise there would be no space for another person.

So if you’re struggling to pin your partner down, beware!

“When you reach out, you get no reply or told they’ll get right back to you – which they don’t,” Wish explains, adding: “Unpredictable contact is part and parcel of the cheater’s profile.”

Busy diary.
If they’re barely available to spend time with you, it may be a red flag. Credit: Alamy

Can’t admit they’re wrong

A cheater will need to be able to rationalise their actions to themselves, so will be able to make themselves feel like they’re not in the wrong.

“Cheaters often say things such as: ‘My partner doesn’t like to do what I like to do in bed’. Or, ‘Our relationship is unfulfilling s**ually and emotionally, so I have to get it elsewhere’,” Wish reveals.

Couple arguing.
A cheater is more likely to be unable to admit when they’re wrong. Credit: Alamy

Avoid direct questions

If your partner won’t answer direct questions and tries to beat around the bush, it could be that they have something to hide.

They ‘deflect pointed conversations by changing the true subject and always minimising their actions’, award-winning therapist and survivor of psychological abuse, Shannon Thomas confirms to Insider.

Overly impulsive

Many people who cheat do so because they chase thrills.

Wish adds: “They are deeply insecure people who feel flawed, unloved, angry, and, ironically, robbed of something that they needed emotionally in life as a child.”

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Written by Annie Walton Doyle

Annie Walton Doyle is a content editor at IGV who specialises in trending, lifestyle and entertainment news. She graduated from Goldsmiths, University of London, with a degree in English Literature. Annie has previously worked with organisations such as The Huffington Post, The Guardian, The Telegraph, Harvard University, the Pulitzer Prize and 22 Words.